Monogram Etiquette

A simple guide to getting it just right.

Monograms are a timeless way to personalize gifts, clothing, and keepsakes—but knowing the proper order can make all the difference! Whether you’re shopping for yourself or gifting someone special, here's a quick guide to help you choose the perfect monogram style.

Traditional Monogram Formats

For Individuals (3 Letters)

Format: First Name – Last Name – Middle Name
Example: Whitney Elizabeth Sweeney → wSe
(Note: The last name initial is placed in the center and slightly larger.)

Three-letter monogram for an individual, stitched as a lowercase w, a larger capital S in the centre, and a lowercase e.

For Married Women (Maiden Name Option)

Format: First Name – Married Last Name – Maiden Name
Example: Whitney Day Sweeney → wSd

Married woman's monogram, stitched as a lowercase w, a larger capital S in the centre, and a lowercase d for the maiden name.

For Men (Straight Initials)

Format: First – Middle – Last
Example: Tyler O'Brien Sweeney → TOS
(All letters the same size, in order of the full name.)

Men's monogram stitched as three capital letters of equal size, T O S, reading in order of the full name.

Stacked Monogram (2-over-1 Style)

Format: First – Middle – Last
Example: Robert Ralston Sweeney → R over R, next to a larger S
(First and middle initials are stacked on the left, with the last name initial larger on the right. This style is modern and masculine—perfect for items like luggage tags, towels, or cufflinks.)

Stacked two-over-one monogram, with two smaller initials stacked on the left beside one larger last-name initial on the right.

For Couples

Format: Her First – Shared Last – His First
Example: Whitney & Tyler Sweeney → wSt
(The shared last name is centered and larger.)

Couple's monogram, stitched as her initial, a larger shared last-name initial in the centre, and his initial.

For Children

Use the traditional 3-letter format:
First – Last – Middle
Example: Palmer Jeanne Sweeney → pSj

Tip: Baby and toddler items look especially sweet with a monogram!

Child's monogram stitched in the traditional three-letter format, with the last-name initial larger in the centre.

Single-Letter Monograms

Sometimes simple is best! A single last name initial is a clean, elegant option—great for towels, bags, or home décor.

A single last-name initial stitched on its own as a simple, elegant monogram.

Still Not Sure?

No worries! If you're unsure about the correct monogram for your order, just reach out. I’m always happy to help you choose the perfect style for any occasion.

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